Hello Lexington FAMILY Magazine readers!
Well, this is it. We've just started our series of classes, gearing up to be Mommy and Daddy. From here on out we'll be busy in the upcoming weeks with work, baby classes, putting together the nursery and baby showers. Not to mention the holidays are just around the corner!
I thought tonight was fun, and Brian seemed to enjoy the class as well. He volunteered to wear the 25-pound backpack filled with rice on his belly, and ankle weights, all to experience how I was feeling. Welcome to my world honey! The instructor gave each of the men a tiny gift for at least trying it on. Good job men!
We started the class off by introducing other couples to the room, which sounds a little overdone, but I actually thought it helped break the ice a bit. Plus you don't feel as stupid trying to get on and off the floor when you know the names of others around you going through the same thing.
We learned some different positions to lay in while in labor, as well as some key techniques to breathing and relaxation. We also watched a film on one couple's birth (all natural--WOW), and took a bunch of bathroom breaks, thankfully :) Question and answer time made me feel a lot more assured that we're not the only ones who are new to the game. Everyone in the class is having their first baby, and seemed just as green as we are.
The instructor was fantastic! About 33 years under her belt, and still going strong. She was very comfortable talking to the class, and made it feel like it was just a bunch of friends comparing notes on what's going on with people's bodies, what to expect when in the hospital, sonogram accuracy (and lack thereof), birth plans, optional medicine(s), car seat safety, etc. Needless to say, we talked about a lot of topics!
Next week we'll be touring the hospital and going through the whole birthing process more in depth (I'm assuming).
Let me also note: while in class, I was so thankful that Brian was there supporting me. He held my hand, rubbed my back, and kept me laughing. I was glad he watched the video showing how great the woman's husband was during the birth, and that he was surrounded by other men with their wives. I was sure some of this would rub off on him. However when we got home, he turned to me and said "I just don't think it's going to be as bad or hurt as much as you think it is." UMMMMM, WHAT? I'm grateful that he's trying to be supportive and positive, but how can I possibly help him understand what I'll be going through in just a few months? Any ideas? What have you done, or have you heard of, that will help a man understand the breadth of the situation? I have plenty of books lying around about childbirth, pregnancy--even one for men! But he's yet to pick one up. I'd LOVE to hear some ideas. Let me know!
Until next time, study up!
Karyn Potts
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3 comments:
Give it up! He's not going to understand before, and believe me, he still won't understand after. As long as he's there, holding your hand, he doesn't need to understand!
Well Karyn, only time will tell. Brian may feel right now that the pain may not be so bad, and hopefully, it won't be for you. He will probably feel "guilty" about the pain you're suffering when he stands there unable to help you during delivery! Fortunately, you will know that the end is near and it's all worth it when you see that baby. Memory is kind, as well, or there would be a lot more only children! I can tell you, firsthand, that his being there with you will make a big difference in the bonding between him and your daughter as well. That little creature can be pretty intimidating for some men initially, but it seems that seeing what they go through in the birthing process makes them aware that they are not quite as fragile as they look.
Anyway, glad all is going well and that you are taking the time to be as prepared as you possibly can. Makes those first few days a lot less stressful!
Jim was fantastic too - but it took seeing exactly what my body was doing in those last few minutes to really grasp it - so no worries - it does take the guys a bit longer to get the hang of things - but he will!!!
As will you - there will be questions thru out this little girls life - more in the beginning - remember to always go with your gut - women have been doing this since the dawn of time - and you are a strong woman so all will go beautifully!!!
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